Change is inevitable, everything is constantly changing, and it is how we deal with change that makes us or breaks us.

Where there is change there is uncertainty and as human beings we are programmed to be cautious when we are uncertain or uncomfortable.

I think it’s a defense mechanism. Our brain releases some kind of chemical to say, “Oh shit, this is not normal, ALERT!”

From there we do everything we can to push and fight against this outrageous intruder called change. We don’t like the upset in our standard patterns or practice so we try avoiding them.

Change can come in small or large. Like if you religiously eat cereal every morning than suddenly there is no milk you go through a small internal struggle. What will you eat, will it satisfy you and you probably think about how you could avoid another option, drive to the shop and buy some milk.

When there is larger change the emotions are deeper, the stakes are higher, the struggle is much more painful. Our reaction is accordingly equal. You know how it works, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Change upsets us and brings out all the limiting emotions. We can train our change muscle so that we are not affected as much by change but it requires work.

When you get fired, change is forced upon you. The emotions you go through are extreme. Revenge, frustrations, depression, anger, fear, guilt, you name it. In similar situations sometimes you feel life will never be normal again.

Separate from your partner, loose a business deal, break a leg, car is stolen, someone close to you passes, you don’t get the job, the promotion, they can all leave us feeling pretty ordinary.

Things can and do get better. Everything levels itself out. We’ve all been there before and survived.

I believe the more you experience change the great you become at handling it. I am sure this is why many people that have pushed through very tough upbringings can become extraordinary in their life’s course.

To practice this muscle you need to push yourself outside of your comfort zone daily. Force yourself to do things you really don’t want to do. The more practice you have at this the better you will become, the more you will learn and the further you will go.

Just imagine if public speaking was something you really wanted to do but were absolutely fearful of. I think it is actually up there as far as top fears go. If you pushed yourself to start then after a period of time this would become second nature. Suddenly your comfort zone would have expanded and you will look for the next challenge.

The issue with change, other than the fact that often it is not pleasurable, is that it is all a perception. Whatever change event has occurred, it is neither good nor bad, but rather what meaning we place against it and then how we react or respond.

An event has occurred and what is what it is. We have power to control how we view these events and often many of us view them subjectively. We attach ourselves to the event like we have some control over it.

It is important to understand the event and understand our feelings in regards to the event but it is equally important to understand and choice how we will respond to the event. Try viewing it objectively.

We need to recognize what is in our control and what isn’t. With change, often there is minimal control, it is inevitable, and it is what it is. What is certain is what is happening at present and how we choice to act in the now. This we have full control of.

We can choice to have our emotions control us, react poorly to the situation, and try control the situation or circumstances that are out of our control or we can choice to use what we have to overcome the situation and get beyond the event to the next level.

Use change to your benefit. Let change be the booster you need to succeed. Take change as an opportunity to learn and use it improve your-self.

At the end of the day change is great. Change has only ever bought me greater things in life.